Fatherhood by Bill Cosby “The answer, of course, is that no matter how hopeless or copeless a father may be, his role is simply to be there, sharing all the chores with his wife. Let her have the babies; but after that, try to share every Job around. Any man today who returns from work, sinks into a chair, and calls for his pipe is a man with an appetite for danger. If the new American father feels bewildered and even defeated, let him take comfort from the fact that whatever he does in any fathering situation has a fifty ercent chance of being right.
Having five children has taught me a truth as cosmic as any that there are no absolutes in raising children. In any stressful situation, fathering is always a roll of the dice. The game may be messy, but I have never found one with more rewards and Joys. You know the only people who are always sure about the proper way to raise children? Those whoVe never had any. ” (61). The lighthearted, insightful, and mentoring tone of this quote is the exact portrayal of Bill Cosbys Fatherhood as a whole. This nonfiction book contains a different set up from the ordinary parenting guides that anxious, new parents usually read.
In general, Cosby, from beginning to end, uses a nurturing demeanor to share his personal experiences about fathering as if he is fathering the reader with his words. Throughout the text, he constantly sets a reminder that a father must simply “be there” and support their child no matter of the frantic, emotional rollercoaster a child goes through. Cosby explains that “you Just need a lot of love and luck because] having a child is surely the most beautiful irrational act that two people in love can commit” (18).
Being a completely opinion-based piece of literature, Cosby incorporates his humor and thoughts about events during his fatherhood experiences that have made him come to love his family unconditionally. He uses stories like when he let his kids eat chocolate cake for breakfast or that his wife doesn’t let him dress the kids because men “see colors the way Beethoven heard notes” (101). These events are told to lighten up the mood about the astonishing esponsibility of having a child that can change two people’s lives so rapidly.
Just like being sensitive to an infants needs, Cosby also discusses how a father and/or parents can be sympathetic to a child through all their phases in life. He includes situations like a son having “his first wet dream” or being able to provide comfort when “your daughter [explains why her] period is late” (158-159). By putting light onto awkward circumstances like these, Bill breaks the ice of how not to avoid these situations, but how to prepare and build a relationship with your child for when hese situations appear.
Through all the events shared within this book, Cosby never fails to bring out the love he has for his five children and to describe to the reader what kind of man his children have made him for the better. He rations out his personal life experiences as a father for his reader to take and create their own advice, and be able to apply it to their lifestyle. Bill takes it into consideration that everyone Is OITTerent In tne way tney live, love, ana are no absolutes in raising children” (61). nanale IITe’s oostacles ut